I can’t believe its September already! This summer came and went and for many of us it wasn’t exactly what we expected, but it just might be what we needed. A little update on my life: I finished my first term at Drexel! I start Fall quarter on Monday and I’ll be one quarter closer to getting that Master’s. My honey and I are doing very well, I got an extension in my current position because they love me, I started Keto back up (I want a piece of bread soooo bad), and the areas that I vented about in my last post are getting some TLC. I made a promise to myself that the last four months of this year will be very personal and I won’t take 2019 goals into 2020.
One very helpful tip that I took away from my previous job is to set weekly goals every Sunday. Write them down and share them with someone so they can hold you accountable to them or build your self-discipline skills and hold yourself accountable. A great way to do that is to reward yourself at the end of the week, whether it’s eating that cookie you’ve been craving all week or buying that shirt you’ve been eyeing; its a great way to thank yourself and have something to look forward to after accomplishing your goals. I know sometimes I have trouble figuring out what kind of goals to set each week, but MindTools has a great list of ways to perfect your goal setting technique. Your goals should constantly be changing and evolving as you evolve and they help you create a plan to work towards the life you want. Another thing I’ve learned about goal setting is to set HUGE goals. If people think you’re crazy when you tell them about your goals then you’re doing it right.
Now that you’ve set all of these wonderful goals you have to back the words up with actions. It’s honestly a waste of time and energy if you get all excited to write your goals on Sunday and pumped to take on the week, but get lazy and makes excuses to not get things done. The only way these next few months can be full of change is if you wake up everyday determined to achieve a new goal and make it better than the one before. Sad news: obstacles are going to pop up in the form of many different things such as, people leaving your life, people not supporting you, financial burdens, etc., but the one thing that has to stay consistent is your dedication to the life you want and deserve. Stay focused on what you want and stay positive everything will eventually fall into place.
Sis, it’s Okay
In the midst of all this goal setting and working towards becoming your highest self, you’re going to get overwhelmed and at times feel like you’re not doing enough (I speak from wayyy too much experience). Something I found out that we do as women is put too much pressure on ourselves; we’re constantly rushing our processes to keep up with those around us. One thing that I’ve had a hard time grasping, but I’m so glad I did is that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. That missed opportunity, that closed door, that denial was God’s way of telling you to stop rushing yourself. Once you relax and you have faith in whatever higher being you believe in and most importantly believe in yourself things will begin happening right in front of your eyes. Its okay to be sad, its okay to be angry, its okay to feel like giving up as long as you don’t dwell in that space. Feel your feelings, learn that lesson, and get up and get right back to it; re-work, re-think, re-organize until your plan comes to fruition. Always remember: its already yours.
I’m so excited for Fall, for classes, for fun, for everything that’s in store for myself and my loved ones, I’m just so excited for life! This year is nearing its end and instead of thinking about what you didn’t accomplish think about what you can and will accomplish in the last 4 months. Let me know in the comments or on Twitter @skinlovepeace what your goals are for the rest of the year if you just want to share or you want an accountability partner, either way I’m here!
Bye for now!
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Zig Ziglar